Bicoastal_Bride

Boudoir photo sessions seem to be all the rage this year, with brides-to-be and newlyweds alike surprising their grooms with stylish and flirty photos that run the gamut from sweetly sexy to boldly risqué.

The more I read about these sassy shoots, the more I’m impressed by the number of women who say that although the session was first intended as a gift to the groom, in the end, it was a gift to the bride, instilling a greater sense of confidence and empowerment. Still, as a fairly modest girl, I’m not sure how comfortable I’d feel going before the camera for a shoot like this, or whether I’d be able to loosen up enough to allow the photographer to really capture the best shots.

What do you say, girls? Have you done a boudoir session, or is it something you’d consider? If so, what advice do you have for brides and newlyweds thinking about giving it a go?

So far, for me, I guess this is about as daring as it gets…

 For His Eyes Only: Boudoir Photography
(Photo Credit: Damien Smith Photography)
September 2, 2010 by Bicoastal_Bride | Filed under: Wedding Etiquette & Advice,Wedding Photos & Video | 0 Comments
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Lilian

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Invitations are an important step to set the tone for the type of wedding you intend to have, whether it is fancy, casual or something in between.

Nowadays, we have so much to choose from; printing techniques, paper style, colors, sizes, new trends….

I haven’t found yet THAT perfect invitation…but I am almost there (I guess).

My biggest dilemma at this moment however is the wording. I am having a hard time trying to figure out which idiom to write on my invitations. As most of you might know, I will be having a destination wedding in Brazil. Some of my guests understand English and Portuguese pretty well. However, some, can only understand/read English and others only Portuguese.

A friend of mine suggested me to have the invitations written in Portuguese as the wedding will be held in Brazil. Besides, the guest flying out of US will be contacting me anyways for travel arrangements and I can always explain the details.

The other day I was reading about a bride who is currently living in London and her wedding will be held in Costa Rica. To avoid any misunderstanding, she had invitations written in English and in Spanish. (Maybe a little too much??).

I was also told to choose one or the other and have a little card attached with the translation…

Have any of you been through a situation like this? Any ideas??? Suggestions??

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image credit: OhSoBeautifulPaper

September 1, 2010 by Lilian | Filed under: Invitations & Save The Dates,Wedding Etiquette & Advice | 3 Comments
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Beach Bride

After a long debate that may have been harder than any one piece of the wedding planning process, in which ideas from Europe to Mexico were tossed aside, my husband and I decided to honeymoon in Aruba. I think we made a perfect decision. I’ve now been back to reality for 2 weeks, and it has been one of the hardest transitions I’ve ever had to make!

There is so much to share about my trip, and also hopefully as a resource for future honeymooners, that I’ll break my recap up into a series of posts. This first one will focus on what we focused on most during the honeymoon… the food!

When planning the honeymoon, one of the questions we had a hard time answering was whether or not it was worth it to go to an all-inclusive resort. We priced out options both ways, and finally came to the conclusion that we would rather “rough it” in Aruba so we could go explore places all around the island, and not just what our hotel had to offer, without racking up huge charges. To anyone considering a trip to Aruba in the future: I highly recommend you do what we did. There are so many AMAZING places to eat around the island; you would really be missing out by sticking to the dining at your own resort.

The dining was one of the only elements of our trip that we really planned out when we first arrived at the hotel. We made reservations with the concierge for each of the places that had been recommended to us or that we had read about and wanted to try. Ranging from “authentic island cuisine” at Papiamento to grilled specialties at Pinchos, we had so many great meals I can’t even begin to describe all of them.

This post is going to focus on our favorite dinner, which is also a staple of any island honeymoon, the right-on-the-beach dining experience. There were several to choose from in Aruba, but based on a recommendation from our friends who also honeymooned in Aruba, we chose Passions at the Amsterdam hotel.

The first thing that was striking about Passions was the atmosphere. Between the striking effect of the sun setting over the water, and the beautiful straw umbrellas lined with sparkling white lights, it was one of the most gorgeous and romantic places I’ve ever seen. It just felt magical right as we stepped out of the cab.

Passions Aruba

Of course, I would never judge a restaurant solely on its atmosphere… and luckily, Passions held up to my first impression and did not disappoint in any other way. The food and the service were both amazing. And an added perk: to maintain the amazing romantic atmosphere and not ruin it with too much lighting, the menus lit up when you opened them so you could still read them! That was a big perk for my husband, who really likes shiny things. But I have to admit, I really enjoyed it too.

Passions Aruba

To top off an amazing meal, when we got the dessert menu we noticed that there was something called a “sparkling surprise” romantic dessert for two. It sounded way too fun to pass up, so we gave it a shot…

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August 27, 2010 by Beach Bride | Filed under: Travel & Honeymoon,Wedding Etiquette & Advice | 1 Comment
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Bicoastal_Bride

A couple months ago, I received a wedding invitation with a cute little Target registry card tucked neatly inside the envelope. But as cute as the card was, I couldn’t help but feel taken aback.

Before I go on, I should first say that I’m no stickler for traditional, old-fashioned rules, and am all for modernizing invitations and other wedding elements to suit a couple’s style and wishes. For example, our invite included our wedding website address at the bottom, which some etiquette gurus might find unacceptable, plus updated language that reflected the tone we wanted to set for our day.

But according to every etiquette guide I’ve encountered over the years, including registry information with an invite is nothing short of tacky and taboo. This has always stood out in my mind as a major don’t, and I, for one, feel it comes across as rude to directly solicit a gift from one’s guests.

 Including Registry Info With Your Invite
What do you think? Am I wrong? Is this practice becoming more socially acceptable, or are couples just innocently not aware of the longstanding etiquette guidelines in this situation? Do some couples actually think they’re doing guests a favor by making their registry info easily accessible, and do some guests appreciate receiving registry details in such a direct way?

(Photo Credit: Alex Neumann Photography)

August 25, 2010 by Bicoastal_Bride | Filed under: Invitations & Save The Dates,Wedding Etiquette & Advice | 10 Comments
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caitlin1122

I have been very blessed that in my almost 25 years I have only lost 2 family members, and I just lost the first of my 5 grandparents last summer. I know so many people who never knew their grandparents so I am so thankful for that. But since I have been so lucky, the two deaths in my family have been hard and even harder knowing my grandfather and my cousin wont be at my wedding. My cousin (we were 9 months apart) passed away tragically when we were juniors in high school and I am fairly certain if she were still alive she would be splitting MOH duties with my best friend (it was the three of us growing up spending the summers together).

So throughout my wedding planning I have wanted to find some way to incorporate the two of them in a special way. Even if it was only something I noticed. For example, my cousin’s favorite color was purple. So I thought of trying to put something purple on or in my bouquet. Well my mom beat me to it and immediately put me into tears! She gave me a present when we were with my whole family and the card talked about how important it was to have the ones you love there with you at the big moments in your life, and now I would be able to have my grandpa and Anne (my cousin) with me on my big day. She got these small charms made for me to attach to my bouquet on my wedding day. It was absolutely perfect and exactly the kind of thing that I wanted to do. If anyone is interested in doing these-she ordered them from Snapfish! I couldn’t believe it. They actually come on chains so it can even double as a necklace if you wanted.

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Are you doing anything in remembrance of a lost loved one?

August 20, 2010 by caitlin1122 | Filed under: Ceremony and Vows,Wedding Etiquette & Advice | 2 Comments
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Aims

So my boyfriend and I just got engaged, and while we haven’t given much thought to a date yet we know it’s going to be about two years from now. Giving us plenty of time to plan and think about what we want, as well as do some DIY projects to try to keep things as inexpensive as possible.

We have two dogs, one who is about two and a half and on who is about 9 months old

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This is Cracker Jack the 9 month old.

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This is Woodrow the two year old. Both dogs are really important to my fiancé and me. Cracker Jack was my Christmas present and Woodrow was the FH’s valentines day present. They are like our children and the only “kids” we plan to have for a while. So we were thinking about including them in the wedding day, we just are not sure how to. We are a little skeptical right now about Jack and his hyper-ness, he’s still a puppy but in the two years he would obviously mature and hopefully calm down.

Has anyone included their pets in the ceremony or reception? I probably should mention that we plan to have the ceremony outside so I don’t see a problem with having them involved, besides Jack getting distracted by the occasional squirrel.

August 18, 2010 by Aims | Filed under: All the rest,Ceremony and Vows,Wedding Etiquette & Advice | 5 Comments
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Born to be Mrs. Beever

One thing we knew for sure was that there would be lots of kids at our wedding.  Out of a guest list of about 190 people in attendance, at least 15 to 20 of those were kids ranging from 6 months to 16 years in age.

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Our 2 little nephew ring bearers hanging out pre-ceremony
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By Grant Sharp

Now everyone knows how hard it is to keep kids entertained at a wedding, at least during the ceremony portion.  So I had lots of ideas to keep them busy and active.  And it had to start with our four ring bearers (3 of which were Mr Fix It’s nephews and 1 was my nephew) and our flower girl (my little cousin).

 Wedding Recap: The little ones
August 17, 2010 by Born to be Mrs. Beever | Filed under: Bridal Parties,Entertainment,Wedding Etiquette & Advice | 2 Comments
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BrideFlu

The rehearsal dinner is a very controversial subject. A lot of people believe that only the immediate family and the wedding party need be included. However, after not getting invited to my friend’s rehearsal dinner last weekend, I have a new rule. So listen up, Emily Post:

ANY GUEST WHO HAD TO FLY OR DRIVE OVER 4 HOURS TO ATTEND YOUR WEDDING SHOULD ALSO BE INVTED TO THE REHEARSAL DINNER.

Here’s why. Let me break down our travel expenses:

Plane tickets from LAX to Charlotte: $644 X 2 = $1288
Checking two bags each way: $100
Hotel two nights: $230
Rental car split with friend: Approximately $100
Cab ride to and from airport and home: $180

In other words, it cost us about $1900 to attend my friend’s wedding, and that doesn’t include the little extras like water, food at the airport, etc.

Fortunately, her nuptials coincided perfectly with being able to visit my mother’s family, who happen to reside two hours north of Charlotte. So I was able to make it into a productive trip. However, if I had to spend that much money just to attend a 20 minute ceremony and a 3 hour reception, I really would have thought twice about going, as much as I love my friend.

My point is, it’s REALLY expensive to travel these days. You had better let your guests know how grateful you are that they made the effort to be there. Because even if you’re not planning a destination wedding, most likely at least a few of your guests will be coming from out of town.

Let me be clear here. I’m not complaining about missing out on a free meal.

The truth is, when I think about the weddings I’ve attended in the past few years, being at the rehearsal dinner is what made the event feel like a special weekend. I love seeing the photographs and the home movies of the bride and groom growing up. I love hearing stories and speeches and taking those once-in-a-lifetime trips down memory lane. To me, the rehearsal dinners can be more personal, romantic and memorable than the wedding itself.

That’s the part I was really sad to miss out on at my friend’s wedding last weekend.

I know some people are going to disagree with me. Go ahead and tell me what you think!

August 16, 2010 by BrideFlu | Filed under: All the rest,Travel & Honeymoon,Wedding Etiquette & Advice | 7 Comments
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BekaPaige

Whew has it been a crazy year since we tied the knot- do you even remember me?  I’ve gotten a emails this week from two of my favorite readers (mmWAH) asking where the heck I’ve been.

Great question!  You know, while we were engaged, I thought that life would calm down to a less hectic pace once we got married.  All the dust would settle and all those hours we spent writing our ceremony and tying ribbons would be freed up to do other things.

Well.

Lesson learned: life doesn’t slow down.  You just get busier with other things.  At any rate, I will say this- these past months, this past year, has given me an entirely different perspective on our wedding.  When you’re engaged, you look towards the wedding day as the start, the beginning.  After you’re married, you look back on your wedding day and remember all the feelings and the little moments that made the day what it was.  Really, that’s what a wedding is about- setting the stage for a marriage, having a defined moment in time when you looked each other in the eye in front of everyone whose opinions matter to you, and declare before God that I am his and he is mine.

One other thing- while I was engaged, people told me all the time to enjoy things now because everything goes downhill after you’re married.  Now, obviously we’ve only been doing this marriage thing for 16 months, but so far?  Nothing could be further from the truth.  We didn’t have the smoothest engagement but the marriage?  Guys, so far- it’s rocked.

So recaps.  Here we go!

To start it off, here is the post that I wrote on my blog shortly after our wedding:

We planned our wedding for 18 months. The day itself seemed very short.

We planned every little detail. The day of, we couldn’t have cared less if everything was perfect.

We thought about the wedding for 18 months. Since the honeymoon, it’s as if the wedding was a long time ago, a beautiful wonderful moment that flew past us and set us on a path to a life that we are busy living.

So how do I write about a wedding?

Do I tell you about the moments that still make me tear up? Do I tell you about the laughter that threatened to ruin my makeup? Do I tell you only about the good or do I share the bad?

All these words. A picture is worth a thousand of them. Maybe I should just start there. These are the photos that sum up best what I experienced on my wedding day. Taken during the ceremony, I think you’ll understand through these photos what my words can’t explain.

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August 6, 2010 by BekaPaige | Filed under: Ceremony and Vows,DIY Weddings,Wedding Etiquette & Advice | 1 Comment
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Born to be Mrs. Beever

This ceremony recap speaks for itself.  There’s not much I need to write to go along with these photos and video other than to tell you that like with everything else surrounding our wedding, I did not want the traditional verbage used to end our ceremony.

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As our pastor made everyone aware in this post, I wrote out our ceremony script for him with key bible verses, vows, and ideas to share during his message.  Near the end of the wedding planning process, I told him that he didn’t need to stick to the script verbatim…except for where I highlighted certain words and portions of the script that were absolutely imperative to have Pastor Lyle say exactly as I wrote them out.  One of those few things that I insisted be performed exactly as I wanted was the final comment of the ceremony where the officiant typically says “You may now kiss your bride!”

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I wanted this to be a bit untraditional, so as you’ll see in the video, I came up with a bit of a unique way for Pastor L to direct Mr Fix It for the kiss:

And ladies, let me tell you yet again why I absolutely implore you to have some type of video at your wedding….the day after the wedding, I could not remember one thing about our first kiss!!!  Nothing!  I didn’t even really remember kissing my groom at all at the end of the ceremony.  But thankfully there was video to prove we did in fact kiss.   And though the photos are great, they just can’t seem to convey the length, type and memory of the kiss the way the video can.  :)

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August 5, 2010 by Born to be Mrs. Beever | Filed under: Ceremony and Vows,Wedding Etiquette & Advice | 0 Comments
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