Bicoastal_Bride

The man I married is my best friend and partner in all things – the silly, the serious, the life-changing, and the mundane. He is gentle, sincere, thoughtful and genuine, and he looked so handsome and happy on our wedding day.

 The Man I Married
Some people think that wedding day portraits are all about the bride, but I disagree. Stephen looked amazing, and he did it without a $200 makeup application or a $1,000 gown.
 The Man I Married
 The Man I Married
 The Man I Married
 The Man I Married
LESSON LEARNED: A good photographer will be sure to capture a few great portrait shots of the groom, but if he or she seems to be forgetting, or if you’d like more, be sure to speak up. After all, it’s your husband’s day, too!
Do you have any favorite wedding day or engagement shots of your guy?

(Photo Credits: Alex Neumann Photography)

August 27, 2010 by Bicoastal_Bride | Filed under: Groom's Guide,Wedding Photos & Video | 1 Comment
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BrideFlu

This Sunday marked the five month anniversary of our engagement! It’s been a whirlwind time for both of us with lots of emotions, stories and insights. I started a blog to help convey the lessons I’ve learned since my introduction into fiancee-hood. But what about what J’s gone through? Here are a few of the thoughts he’d probably share with men who are about to propose to their girlfriends! If only he had known ahead of time…

1. You will not get to sit back and relax after the proposal, even though you probably deserve to. A few days after we got engaged, J and I had our first discussion about setting a date. J thought a year and a half would be a nice time frame. My friend E reported a similar situation with her fiancee who suggested they wait well over a year to walk down the aisle. Another friend’s fiance admitted he thought they’d wait at least two years before even starting to plan their nuptials!

Guess what, guys? Slipping the ring on her finger is like pulling the trigger on the starting gun: on your marks, get set, get married! I understand that you just went through a lot of stress choosing the ring, planning the surprise and pulling off the proposal. We truly are grateful but quite frankly, you’ve given us an excuse to do a ton of shopping, crafting and planning and there’s no way we can wait. Honestly, we can’t. It’s in our DNA. Think of the little box that ring comes in as Pandora’s Box because once you open it, there ain’t no stopping the wedding planning.

2. You will discuss something about the wedding every day until the wedding. This will eventually make you grateful that you are not, in fact, waiting more than a year to get married.

3. You will be judged by the ring. “Let me see it!” Is what most ladies will say the first time they run into your gal after getting engaged. They’ll exclaim, “Oh, it’s beautiful!”or, “How do you hold up your finger? It’s so big!” or “Oh! It’s so bright. I need sunglasses!”

I know when you’re picking out the ring you’re only worried about her reaction, but you should also worry about the reactions of her mother, her best friend, her co-workers, her hairdresser, her bagger at the grocery store who asks if she prefers paper or plastic, and just about every other woman in her life.

4. You will be forced to watch a lot of wedding television: Poor J was not invited to attend my wedding dress shopping. However he has seen hundreds of brides try on and find their future wedding gowns thanks to the Say Yes to the Dress marathons that occur every Friday on TLC. (And now Say Yes To The Dress Atlanta! Southern women are crraaaazzy!) He’s also been forced to watch David Tutera, Battle of the Wedding Designers, Whose Wedding is it Anyway, and Bridezillas. Can somebody say estrogen overload???

5. No matter how crazy your future bride gets during the wedding planning, just remember: it could be worse. This is why I make sure J watches a lot of episodes of Bridezillas! Those hoes make me look calm, sane and rational. Bring it on!

by BrideFlu | Filed under: Entertainment,Groom's Guide | 6 Comments
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TheHoneymoonTesters

Posted by Mark

As we contemplate the prospect of spending the next six months testing hammocks, sipping champagne and critiquing luxury hotels, Mark is faced with the million dollar question…

Is it acceptable to watch the FIFA World Cup on your honeymoon?

Planning your wedding is an exhausting, exhilarating and amazing experience.  As a couple you will enjoy highs, lows and set-backs culminating in the best day of your lives.

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At the same time, for any sports fan, particularly any football fan, every four years an event of similar drama, excitement and romance takes place. If you are fortunate enough to be getting married in the next few weeks and your honeymoon falls in the period of June 11th to July 11th then there is a strong chance that FIFA World Cup matches will be taking place during your dream honeymoon.

Unless handled in a delicate manner this challenge alone could cause arguments, wedding cancellations, ruined honeymoons, divorce or even death (well, maybe not death but we guess your new wife could quickly abstain from normal honeymoon and newlywed activities!)

Mark works in the sports industry and has tried and failed to use the ‘I need to watch this football for work’ excuse many times but as a passionate football fan and Manchester United supporter he was successful in incorporating football into our own honeymoon, so learn from the Master.

Here are some potential tactics to breach the World Cup issue with your lovely wife-to-be:

1.  Grab the nettle – Face up to the issue, be brave, talk to your wife before the trip, negotiate being able to watch from the knock-out stages onwards and promise to only watch the important games. A bribe or promise of a treat on the trip may ease discussions.

2.  On the sly – Sunbathe near the bar, ask the waiter for score updates, regular bathroom trips. Proceed with caution, getting caught watching a game behind wifey’s back could have scary consequences.

3.  ‘Stumble’ across a pub showing the game – Perfect Planning Prevents Poor Performance – know your team’s schedule, accidentally arrange drinks in a pub that you know will be showing the game.

4.  The shopping trip – Either ask your bride for some alone time while you go and find her the perfect honeymoon gift and combine shopping with watching a match. Alternatively give your bride a big shopping budget and send her off while you ‘rest’ at the hotel.

5.  Go where the action is – If you are feeling brave, consider a honeymoon in South Africa. The whole country will be wrapped up in WC fever and the matches and atmosphere will be unavoidable.

J0422476 6.  Concede defeat – Let your wife know that the WC is on and that to demonstrate your commitment to your marriage you are choosing not to watch the matches. This will either will a sympathy vote where she let’s you watch the big games or will win you a pile of brownie points to be cashed in at different points through your married life – for example – ‘I didn’t watch England win the World Cup on our honeymoon, I made that sacrifice for our love, so I should be able to choose the name of our first child and I would like to call him Wayne (as in Wayne Rooney)’.

To all soon to be married football fans out there, good luck…and don’t give up!

June 29, 2010 by TheHoneymoonTesters | Filed under: All the rest,Groom's Guide,Guest Blogs,Travel & Honeymoon,Wedding Etiquette & Advice | 1 Comment
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Geek Bride

Did anyone else get that moment where wedding planning suddenly stopped being fun?  *sigh*  I suppose because I’ve been pushing it behind other things, like work stresses (one of the bouncers at the club where I work filed a formal complaint against me because I told him off for staring at my friend’s arse), friend stresses (K’s feud with a girl who was trying to sleep with P… she failed, and K & P got back together, it’s been a helluva week) and the stress-relieving magic of Guitar Hero (which our neighbour gave us for free the other day, and which may or may not be stolen goods, we’re not sure).  So wedding planning’s been low on my list of priorities of late… and then I realised that we have 11 months to get our act together, and the budget has inexplicably gone up by £1,000.  This is what happens when you don’t pay attention, apparently.

So, the magic has gone from wedding planning a little, replaced by a sense of having bitten off way more than I can chew, general panic, and fear of crippling debt.  I think I need to look at the picture of the kitten petting the duckling again…

kittenduckling Geek Grooms Grand Plan

I feel better now…

Anyways, Geek Groom, lovely and forward-thinking man that he is, has come up with a money-saving plan.
He came in from work one day and started the conversation with “I’ve been thinking…”
(The last time he started with “I’ve been thinking…” he followed it up with “…we’ve been together for a while now, and now we live together and you have quite a bit of money saved up… I think we should get a PS3″)
So I proceeded with caution; a non-committal “uh-huh”
“If we cut back on a few non-essentials, we could save loads more money for the wedding!”
The only things we buy which could be described as ‘non-essential’ are the videogame and comic book we buy ourselves every week.  ‘NO!’  I screamed inside my head ‘NOT THE COMIC BOOKS!’
Outside my crazy little brain I casually asked “What sort of non-essentials are we talking?”
“Rent, bills, stuff like that…”
“Oh thank God… wait, what?”
“Well, we could move in with my parents, and that would save us lots of money…  And then we could find our own place sooner rather than later…”

Which is actually a great plan.  We’d signed the next year’s contract before we got engaged, and then quickly realised that we’d be spending the first four months of married life in a house with three other people constantly asking whether we drank their Diet Coke and reminding us it’s our turn to buy the next lot of communal bread.  Ack.  So, if we move in with his parents, we save money on rent, bills and food, and can potentially move into our own place shortly after the wedding.

Although the process isn’t exactly stress-free, since I have to keep the house clean, show people around, argue with the housemate who wants our room when we leave, argue with the housemate who claims Geek Cat has infested her room with fleas even though he never goes in her room and doesn’t have fleas, and fend off that woman who knocks on the door twice a week trying to get us to do a transport survey.  But hopefully someone will decide to move in…

June 25, 2010 by Geek Bride | Filed under: All the rest,Groom's Guide | 1 Comment
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Beach Bride

My countdown is down to nearly 1 month until the big day, and I’m starting to stress out.

All the big things are done, but there are just SO many little things. The seating chart, place cards, ceremony program, putting together the DIY centerpieces, etc… are consuming my days now. All I want to do is be able to plan my honeymoon and forget the wedding! (Ok, that’s a lie, but if I did it all over again I’d be all about eloping.)

But I’m a very organized, type-A person and all of that is coming together nicely, despite my stress and anxiety over it. However, the one part that isn’t, is the groom’s gift.

Men have it so easy- buy a girl jewelry and she’ll be happy. There are so many options- earrings, necklace, ring- you name it, she likes it. Put a diamond in a girl’s eyesight and she’ll love it (it got you this far if you’re getting married, right?). But what do you get for a guy the guy who has EVERYTHING?

Groom Gift Bag

It’s hard enough to buy my FH birthday gifts and Christmas gifts, and it literally takes me the whole year to decide what to get for those occasions. Granted, I’ve had all year to decide what to get him for the wedding too, but I’m just stumped. I bought him a new watch last Christmas, he has every video game system and game that he wants, I bought him the speaker system he wanted for his birthday, he has just about every little electronic device/toy on the market, and he’s ultimately a very simple guy who doesn’t need anything other than what he has!

So I’m stumped. I thought about getting him tickets to a Red Sox game and getting a hotel in Boston and making a weekend of it, but I also feel like that’s going the cheap way out because we go to at least 3 or 4 games every year, and we live less than an hour outside of Boston so I’m afraid he would feel that a hotel would be a waste of money. The last thing I want, is for him to start thinking I’m just spending money to spend money- especially right before the wedding when the last thing we should be doing is spending excessively!

What makes matters worse is that I know he already bought me something, so I can’t even take the “let’s just not buy each other gifts and we can have a fantastic honeymoon” route. So I turn to my faithful Blogger Brides for help… what did you think about or buy for your groom for his wedding day gift? Any ideas on what to buy for the man who has everything?

Photo courtesy of www.rosemarycompany.com

June 17, 2010 by Beach Bride | Filed under: Groom's Guide,Wedding Etiquette & Advice,Wedding Gifts & Favors | 3 Comments
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Get Married Fashion Reporter

For more than 65 years, Kleinfeld Bridal has been the premier destination for wedding day fashion for brides across the globe (Each year, 15,000 bridal style journeys begin within Kleinfeld’s doors!)

Good news guys, now grooms are cordially invited to join in on the wedding fashion fun.  Kleinfeld-Men will feature an array of Black Tie tuxedos, suits, jackets and more, all expertly cut by Kleinfeld’s master tailors.

“Our menswear department will make it easy for the bride and groom to create a harmonious look for their wedding day,” said Ronnie Rothstein, Kleinfeld Co-Owner.  ”Kleinfeld provides plenty of choices and a knowledgeable staff that will put the groom, father of the groom, father of the bride, and groomsmen at ease while guiding the couple through the process.”

4539 lobby into saloncolor Lets Hear it for the Boy(s)!

{Photo Courtesy Kleinfeld Bridal}

June 16, 2010 by Get Married Fashion Reporter | Filed under: Fashion, Jewelry & Runway,Groom's Guide | 1 Comment
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mrsmaysonetxo

I am proud to announce that I have officially graduated !!

On June 10th I had my pinning ceremony to receive my nursing pin putting me that much closer to becoming an RN

On June 11th I had graduation from Drexel University’s College of Nursing and Health Professions

And I am so proud to say that one of my bridesmaids, who I met in nursing school, received an award for the Highest Academic Performance for the college of nursing.

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This is me and FH on the day of my pinning

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I want to share with you how amazing it feels to not just have graduated, but to know I went through Drexel’s rigorous 5 year program with Kevin at my side every day. When another student made a speech at pinning about what it means to be a Drexel Nursing Student, FH was the only one of my guests who understood what it meant. He was with me every step of the way. When I would cry because I was so stressed, when I turned into psycho b**ch because I was so overwhelmed, when I couldn’t have any fun because I was always studying, he was there. And he understood it all. So while my graduation is not exactly a wedding topic, my graduation made me appreciate FH even more and to be even more thankful to have him by my side.

June 14, 2010 by mrsmaysonetxo | Filed under: Groom's Guide | 2 Comments
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LoveLeebride

Wow, am I excited!! My groom to be, as some of you might know, lives in Covina (Southern California). I live in Santa Cruz (Northern California). This is going to be so different. Pros and cons to this little tiny adjustment ;-) . Well, Im fully aware that he’s going to be around all the time…everyday. Nothing could make me happier, but I also am fully aware that Im used to being without him; used to having my space and alone time without having to consider anyone else in this decision, lol. I might actually get annoyed with him…weird. I knew this day would come. I mean, we’ve had little fights…not very often. Just little disagreements here and there, but we get over them quickly. I hope that’s the case in the long run. I hope we pick our battles, and not focus on the tiniest little things.

Anyways, he’s moving here on Sunday of this week. Big changes ahead of us. For one thing he can actually visit venues with me. I can stop taking  pictures and sending it to his phone whenever I have ideas or little cute things I see that I would want for our wedding. We can sleep next to each other every night, finally. Ha ha, the simplest little thing to want. I’ve cried so many times from missing him. I mean before we actually met, it was a lot worse. I fell in love with his beautiful voice. I know, I know….sappy love story. It’s a blogger brides site for Christs sake. All Im saying is, Im so happy! I cant wait to be with my love, and actually BE with my love! EXCITEMENT! Im going to fly over there in the early morning, and help pack. Then do a little road trip back to my house. The perfect plan!  I’ll tell more of the gory details when it actually happens.

Lee

June 8, 2010 by LoveLeebride | Filed under: Groom's Guide | 2 Comments
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NotYourTypicalBride

I could write a book about all the things I love about Captain D., but instead I’ll share a couple of great examples…

Example #1: The First Dance

First, you should know that Captain D. is a huge music fan. (That’s something we have in common.) So it’s no surprise to me that he’s giving a lot of thought to the music we will play at our Big Party.

But a couple of weeks ago, out of the blue, he did surprise me when he said he knew what song he wanted for our first dance. After all, I hadn’t even given him this assignment! LOL

The song is “In the Colors,” by Ben Harper. We both love Ben Harper, and the song itself is beautiful.  Plus, it holds special meaning for us because of how we met (dancing). But here’s what really blew me away: Captain D. suggested that we cue the song to begin AS SOON AS THE CEREMONY ENDS.

Keep in mind that we’re having a sunset beach ceremony, and we’re timing it so that we kiss just before the sun sets. Now imagine that as we kiss, and with the sunset as our backdrop, we go straight into our first dance… here are the lyrics:

When your whole world is shaken
from all the risks we have taken
dance with me into the colors of the dusk
When you have awoken
from all the dreams broken
dance with me into the colors of the dusk
The paths we’re walking on crumble behind us
but if we leave now they will never find us
and if this crazy world spins itself down to dust
I want to be with you in the colors
When you again start hoping
with your arms wide open
dance with me into the colors of the dusk
And all will be right
dancing like water with the light
dance with me into the colors of the dusk

It’s nothing short of romantic genius! And going straight into the first dance will be unexpected, too, which I just love.

Example #2: The Last Name

So last night, as we’re saying goodnight, Captain D. says, “I’ve been thinking…” I braced myself, because I had no idea where he was headed. But then he continued…

Captain D.: “You know how you said a while back that you weren’t sure you wanted to change your last name, and I said I didn’t mind either way?”
NotYourTypicalBride: “Yeah…” (at this point I figured he had changed his mind, and I started to worry about how I would respond)
CaptainD: “Well, whatever you decide is still fine with me…”
NotYourTypicalBride: [PHEW]
CaptainD: “But if we happen to be out together, and someone happens to ask, “Are you ‘Mrs. Captain,’ you HAVE TO say yes!”

Of course, honey, I will say “yes.” Emphatically, “yes!” Besides, you never know — I may decide to change my name after all. :-)

May 28, 2010 by NotYourTypicalBride | Filed under: Ceremony and Vows,Groom's Guide | 0 Comments
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Bicoastal_Bride

A few months ago, I thought about surprising Stephen with a groom’s cake at the wedding or rehearsal dinner. But, with our budget already increasing and our regular cake sure to leave everyone beyond stuffed, I decided this was one thing we should probably skip.

Of course, that hasn’t stopped me from imagining what design I would choose if we were having a cake like this. After all, a girl can dream, right? And maybe it can be blamed on a little too much pre-wedding excitement, but I’m now thinking of throwing this into the mix as a last-minute splurge.

Since Stephen is an aerospace engineer and a huge fan of all things science-fiction, I’ve quickly discovered that the sky is indeed the limit, with tons of options for cakes featuring rockets, planes, Star Wars characters, and plenty of other fun motifs.

Here, a few wacky cakes that would surely make my future husband smile and laugh!

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Are you doing a groom’s cake? If so, what theme are you planning to go with? Do you think I should order one ASAP, or just let it slide?

(Photo Credits: Google Images)

May 14, 2010 by Bicoastal_Bride | Filed under: Cakes,Groom's Guide | 7 Comments
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