~I’ve only been married now for 2 ½ weeks and I’ve already been asked, what do I like most about being married and why did I get married from my very single friend who refuses to get married.
She tells me that she doesn’t see the need for couples’ to get married if they’ve been living together and everything has been working out just fine. I’m amazed at how many people actually feel this way and degrade marriage to just being a piece of paper. To me, she just has no understanding of what a good marriage really is, but it wasn’t my job to change her mind on her views, however I had no problem at all answering her question as it affects me.
I let my friend know 1st off that marriage is so much more than just a “piece of paper”. Marriage is a life-style and a total commitment to one another.
The companionship, the unwavering support, and having a best friend that I also get to live with=AWESOME!!
As a wife I commit to it all; building, dreaming and growing with my husband. I took the vow to love and cherish, love thru sickness and in health, thru the good and the bad, and for richer or for poorer. When you’re just dating, you’re not under that obligation.
For me, being Jon’s wife is rewarding and gives me a sense of purpose like no other. I love waking up with Jon in the mornings and going to sleep with him wrapped around me at night.
I like being respected and loved. It’s such a great feeling and so comforting to hear him pull in the garage at the end of the day. I love knowing that his is coming home to me.
I also like the feeling of taking care of him. Many people don’t understand that we need to be needed. Just like we need food, water, love and encouragement we have a need to
Feel like we are needed. He is quick to tell me that he needs me, that I’m the air he breathes and I’m his rib. I’m telling you that feels great.
I also feel that to understand marriage and what it takes to make it work, one must also respect the sanctity of it. I informed her once again that I was beginning to think or feel that my Mr. Right was never going to come along but sure enough he did. I didn’t look for him, but I did pray for him. So you should never say never b/c when you’re least expecting it Prince Charming could be right around the corner. You’ll be amazed what you feel when the “true love of your life” comes along.
So ladies, for you newlyweds out there, what do you love so far about being married?
…..and/or Why Did You Get Married?
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This is a great post, and I feel much the same way you do. Being married feels very different than living together or even being engaged. There’s a closeness and a bond that is stronger than before. There’s a stronger sense of commitment and partnership. Though this may not be important to other couples out there, it’s important to me. When I said my vows before our friends and family, I was truly focused on the meaning of what I was saying and the promise I was making. Marriage is about much more than a piece of paper or a day of celebrating. It’s about making a commitment that will last for the rest of your life.
I just have to say AMEN!!! I have been married to the love of my life for ten years on September and I still feel that way! The covenant and commitment that is “being married” to another person who holds that bond as dear and holy as you do is so beyond words.
I agree with your friend. I see marriage as a piece of paper. We did not get married for love and commitment, we had that before we were married. While we took our wedding vows seriously, we had already made those vows to each other, just not formally and in front of all our family and friends. We got married out of pressure from our families and for the excuse to throw a big party. The fact that I would be allowed to pick up my husband’s packages at the post office may have factored in there too, among other small benefits.
Being married has changed very little in our lives. It has changed my name (what a pain!) and his grandmother now knows we live together. We’ve also gotten discounts on car insurance and we are now able to be on the same health insurance plan. We know that all our assets will be bequeathed to the other in the event of our deaths and people no longer look down on us for “living in sin”. These are the legitimate reasons for marriage that your friend might be interested in hearing.
By the way, you and your husband look great in that photo!