Hi All,
I’m having issues with my Maid of Honor, who also happens to be my sister. While, I love her with all my heart, she is putting our mother through a run for her money, literally. Over the past few years she has proceeded to “bleed our mother dry,” to the point where my mother is struggling to make ends meet and to help us pay for the wedding.
While I have no problem with paying for my mother’s portion, I’m worried about my wedding. I’m worried that I can’t trust my sister around the gifts and $ that we recieve and I’m not sure what to do. It’s gotten to the point where I’m not sure if I even want her at the wedding. I know that probably sounds terrible, but I’m worried about it.
If she has weaseld money and stolen from our mother, I’m worried that she will try to steal from us during the reception.
I’ve spoken to my mother about this and she just brushes it off and says that my sister wouldn’t go anything like that. However, my sister said a long time ago that she was going to “bleed my mother dry” and she kept good on that threat. She also said to my fiancee that she was “going to ruin our wedding.” I don’t know if I should take her seriously, but I think I should.
I would almost feel better if she weren’t there. Then I wouldn’t have to worry the whole night and have someone watch her. I don’t want want to remember my wedding as a stressful day of worrying about our gifts. But, at the same time, I’m afraid she’ll hate me forever.
My fiancee has come straight out and said that he doesn’t want her there, but I’m torn since she’s my sister. What would you do?
Hi there! I just came across your blog and hope to be able to help. First of all, what an awful situation!! I feel bad! I have a few solutions that I think might help.
First of all, I agree with the post above. You should probably confront your sister, tell her your concerns and how she has expressed that she is going to ruin the most important day of your life and tell her that you are stressing out about it. Go about it in a kidding way almost as if not to attack her. If she can give you her word and you feel good about her being there, then let her come so that it’s not something you regret down the road. HOWEVER, if you feel strongly that you do not want her there, then it may be best to tell her the reasons why you feel that way.
As far as her possibly stealing money throughout the night…what I would do is have a card box designed in which you have to actually cut the bottom out of it yourself at the end of the night. This way there is absolutely no way she can take money from there. You can contact me personally and I may be able to make you one (I do make them…it would just depend upon how much time we have, etc.). My email is AllTheRaveEvents@aol.com. Another old-fashioned way to collect your envelopes is to carry a "money bag" around with you and as you go and greet each of your guests from table to table, they will personally hand it to you at which point you will have it with you. If you do this, you’re going to want to have a place…a room nearby or a car even that can be locked in which you or your fiance can go and stash everything. If you feel as though you can trust your bridesmaids, maybe it wouldn’t be a bad idea to have one or two of them inside the actual wedding reception area directing guests to the card box.
Do what you think is right and what your heart tells you to do! Hope this helps!
Heather
All The Rave Events by Heather, LLC.
Ok girl. I know its your sister and all but she obviously doesnt have anyone else’s feelings in mind so why should you care about hers? She sounds selfish and honestly you want your wedding to be the first day of a new life. So do you really want to bring that drama into that new life on the first day. I say if your sister wants to be like that and say those things she does not deserve to be at your wedding dear.