I'm back! I haven't blogged in so long. Since my wedding is two years away I haven't been fast planning. So, church, Check, reception hall, check, wedding dress, check now what? I've been told the most important thing after buying your wedding dress is to have the exact shoes that you plan to wear on your wedding day. The reason, so when the time comes to alter the dress and have your fitting you know exactly how tall you'll be on your day. So, my latest news is my wedding shoes. I finally bought my shoes for my wedding. I wanted to have my shoes for when I had my fitting of my dress. I'm a short girl and my fiancé is pretty tall so the last thing I want is to look really short next to him on our wedding day. I spent a lot of time looking for wedding shoes online and in stores. I wanted my shoes to be different from the common wedding shoe and I wanted to add some color to my dress. That is why I bought red shoes, and I found them on eBay. These shoes are different but still look special. I think it's important to think outside the box, and look at different colors because you never know what you might find. Let me know what you think of the shoes.

Picture is from www.ebay.com. (bebetararhinestonebowpumps)

EBay has a lot of things online for weddings, but you have to be careful what you buy and who you buy it from. Look at the sellers profile and feedbacks from others that have bought items from them to see how good the service is. Make sure you're committed to spend the price of the item and you know the exact size, majority of the times there are no returns/refunds. Use PayPal it is (in my opinion) the safest way to pay for items bought on eBay. Good Luck!

In my wedding party I have 3 bridesmaids and 1 jr. bridesmaid. My maid of honor is my older sister. Having your sister to be maid of honor can be hard especially if the sister isn't married. Lucky for me my sister so far has been nothing but help. When we went dress shopping she was the one putting and taking dresses off. She is open to helping as much as she can, but I have found the hardest thing when dealing with my sister is just trying to contact her. Since we are in different states and both working it's hard to communicate. I can tell how some brides can become bridezilla. You can't sit and wait for people to do things sometimes you have to be pushy to get people to actually do what you asked them to do.

I sit here with my fiancé who can careless about what flowers are used in the bouquet and feeling as if I'm alone on the planning. So, I have found that if you keep a list as you go of the task for each person involved in the wedding can make it easier to stay on top of them as needed. As the task come up I am going to be able to approach them about their duties.  (I hope it works out this way)

Remember, to keep in mind the talents, hobbies, and interest of the person for each specific duty. For example, one of my bridesmaid and best friend is a recent graduate in fashion design. So, I have chosen her to help with shopping for dresses, accessories and suites for the wedding to help tie my theme of 1940 Hollywood glam together. My other bridesmaid and best friend is in interior design so of course she's going to help me with planning the set up for the ceremony and reception (lighting, flower locations, and layout). My future mother in-law has friends that are very crafty and bargain shoppers, so they wanted to create the centerpieces, favors, and other decor.  My hubby to be is great with money so he got the budget. He also wanted to take care of the engagement party, transportation, and responsibility of boarding our dog.

I think if someone wants to volunteer for something, have at it. If you have to assign jobs make them jobs they will enjoy.  I guess I have found that even though you may feel alone there are people around that are willing to help, or at least have a talent that can benefit the wedding. So, don't be afraid to ask or delegate task because no one will do it all for you for free. Hey, if you can afford to pay someone why not take some stress off and do it.

I'm back. Since I have a little over a year to plan wedding I have been doing a lot of research. I have been trying to come up with different ways to make our wedding unique. From the beginning I knew that at the reception there was no way that I was going to be able to wear my shoes the whole time. So, why should my bridesmaids have to wear their heels all day? Of course the idea of flip flops or ballerina shoes came to mind. I wanted to find shoes that would match the color of their dresses (blue and purple).  Like the ones that I found on www.dessy.com

 Then the common Bride ballerina shoes like the one I also found on dessy website.

Again, I'm trying to make this a man friendly wedding (adding man touches). So, why do the guys have to wear their dress shoes all night? I can only assume they aren't that comfy. So, I did my research and figured that the guys can have Converse gym shoes to change into during the reception. Further in my research I learned that you can design your own converse. It allows you to engrave the shoes with up to 10 letters on the side or on the back of the shoe. You are able to select color of each part of the shoe the lace, stitching, tongue, ect. It can work as the wedding party gift to the guys. They can be a bit pricey ($62), but everyone enjoys converse gym shoes.

My design has blue laces, purple stitching and black overall shoe with the wedding party job on the heel of the shoe.

Check out Converse's website to make your groomsmen some comfy shoes for the reception.

Any thoughts let me know.

I watched Bridezilla over the weekend and although the show seems a little scripted to me the thought going through my mind was it's not only about the bride.  Maybe most women want to have the fairy tale wedding with pink butterflies, and their fiancé don't mind having all the girl stuff. I wanted both, I want a beautiful wedding, but I want my fiancé to feel like I took him into consideration on planning our wedding.

I am determined to get the input of my hubby to be on as much as I can. Even though he tells me I can do whatever I want, I tell him I want him to be involved in the planning. Plus, when I asked him about having pink as one of the colors he shut that down. I just want to make the wedding about "us" not just about "me". Hey, we're both making a life time commitment to each other. However, if I would have known how hard it was going to be to make a wedding manly I never would have pushed him to have input. Now, I'm stuck!

Well, not really this has made it more fun and it's going to be another way our wedding is going to be unique. My hubby to be is pretty lucky to be marrying a girl that enjoys watching baseball and football. It's just another thing we can do together now football season is easy around our house we are fans of Chicago Bears. I only wish I could say the same for baseball season.

For those who don't know Chicago has two baseball team Northsiders go for the Cubs the SouthSiders go for the White Sox (the best team). Now, my poor hubby to be has this one flaw of being a Cub fan. I on the other hand was raised right by being a White Sox fan. It does get rough when the teams play each other, but all through the season there is tension. Although, most of it is all in good fun it is something that I wanted to include in our wedding. Being able to show our love overcoming the rivalry of the Sox vs. Cubs (most of the time).  At our reception one of our favors is going to be cookies that the guest can choose cubs or Sox, and yes we are going to keep count. I also found ways to include our love for our team of choice in our wedding.

Cufflinks for the Boys

www.bluechopsticks.com

Cake Toppers One on the bride cake and one on the groom's cake

www.funweddingthings.com

Ring Bearer pillow

Flower girl basket

www.funweddingthings.com

www.bluechopsticks.com

These website have wedding items with teams and hobbies on them.

So, I'm curious if this will make sense to our guest or just confuse them. I don't know yet how it will all turn out, but I'll see what happens. Feed back anyone?

I started my search for themed save the dates for a fellow blogger bride. She wanted movie ticket save the dates and I remember seeing them on a website one day when I was looking at things for my wedding. So, I went on the search to try to find these invitations so i could help her out. Little did I know I would find some cool lookin invites.

I might just use these myself. However, I am not sure I want my wedding to be center around a theme. I just want it to flow together (to understand fully you have to know me) I drive myself crazy not knowing what road I want to take. My poor hubby to be could care less about the details as long as I marry him and don't make him wear a girly color (his words).

With my mom and maid of honor (my older sister) living in South Carolina I'm all alone with trying to decide. So, I need help (not mental) on what I should do. My colors are cornflower and wisteria (light blue and lilac). Again, I'm afraid to be to Theme-ie.

1st choice

2nd choice

3rd and final choice

All of these I found on www.handykaneweddings.com

This site has amazing things for themes it has matching thank you and popcorn responds letters. Check it out let me know what you think.

So I first wanted something different from everyone else. (rebel) I wanted to do 1940's theme. Since my fiance and I love gangster films like scarface, Goodfellas, and Godfather I thought it was a good idea. My Hubby to be wasn't so thrilled about it, so with a little bit of research I decided on old Hollywood glam of 1940's. My wedding dress is similar it has a smoother heart shape top and more beading I'll be wearing it with a birdcage veil

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As for my bridemaids I have no idea set in stone but one that everyone liked was JLM dress. I was thinking for the boys they can have pinstriped tuxes with black and white shoes.

I plan to have feathers and silver involved in the decorations. I also read an idea to take pictures of old Hollywood stars and famous people during that time and name the tables instead of numbering them. I also thought it would be fun to but some fun facts of the star on the tables some where since everyone will be looking at the pictures. Maybe even on the place cards. I don't know I have to see how much work I really want to do with that.

I still have to decide on songs to play during the receptions because I love to dance to hip hop, and Spanish music. Plus my uncle is a DJ so saves some money. I also have to find a good hair style that goes with the birdcage veil. I have found almost all birdcage veils are in an up do. I have naturally curly hair and i wear my hair down all the time. So, i want it down with curls or half. Make up is another pain. Blah! Stress!

Anyway it's hard trying to figure out all the details and have them flow together. Awww!, That's why I wanted 2 years to plan the wedding.